|Posted on May 15, 2018 at 8:35 PM|
“A mother is the truest friend we have. When trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” —Washington Irving
Having just gone through another Mother's Day at work, which was busy and demanding, I thought I'd write a bit about motherhood. For years, in the flower business, I've always been focused on work at this time of year, without reflecting on the day itself. It lost a bit of meaning the year I lost my own Mum but my son and daughter are so caring and close to me that they have helped me cope with the void, even though they also feel that same sadness. My mother had such a wonderful impact on me, whether she was giving me advice, supporting me in my artistic endeavours, or simply just being a sympathetic ear while I had a meltdown or a problem. I was lucky to have her both as a mother and a friend. I could tell her anything.
Becoming a mother changed me. I felt like a completely different person when my daughter was born. I'd never felt love like that even when my mother tried to explain it. She added that I wouldn't know what anxiety really was until I'd had a child, and she was, as always, right. I worried when I discovered my second pregnancy that I might not have "enough love" to go 'round, but miraculously that came right along with the birth of my son. I didn't sleep one wink the night he arrived, thinking about my completed family and how happy I felt. It sounds cliche, but I think motherhood is my greatest accomplishment. My son and daughter are wonderful, compassionate, generous people. They have brought so much joy to me, in every stage of their lives, with their humour, their love and yes, their wisdom and my life would indeed be hollow without them, and I am immensely proud of them both.
The quote by Washington Irving at the beginning of this blog struck me by being so completely accurate to my own opinion of what a mother means to me and inspired me to write this week. I know I felt that way about my own mother, and can only hope that my children think of me that way.
In a few weeks my daughter will discover what motherhood means to her, as she will be giving birth to her son. I've heard many times that the love felt for your "baby's baby" is an incredible force and I'm very excited to meet my grandson.
To all mothers, human and otherwise, I wish you a blessed week. To all who have lost yours, I wish you peace and wonderful memories.